Finding Perspective in Private School Admissions Decisions
The private school application process has been intense for families this cycle, with acceptance letters bringing elation, rejection notices causing disappointment and higher-than-ever waitlist decisions leaving parents perplexed. Yet amid these emotions, it’s essential for parents to remember that these decisions, while significant, don't define a child's worth or potential.
A rejection from a private school isn't a judgment on your child's intelligence, character, or future success. Likewise, an acceptance to a highly selective institution doesn't guarantee happiness or academic fulfillment. And a waitlist decision doesn't mean your child was "almost good enough" but rather reflects complex institutional needs and enrollment management strategies that schools are employing left and right. Regardless of the decision, keep perspective and remember these outcomes represent just one moment in your child's educational journey—not its entirety.
What truly matters is finding an environment where your child can thrive, develop their natural curiosity, and grow as a person. The right school creates a space where they feel both challenged and supported, where they can discover new interests and build confidence. The "best" school isn't necessarily the most exclusive one, but rather the one that aligns with your child's unique learning style, personality, and needs.
Parents, while your involvement stems from wanting the best for your child, remember that their education should nurture their individual spark, not fulfill your aspirations. Your role is to provide guidance while recognizing that your child's educational journey belongs to them, not to your vision or social standing. As I wrote about in a prior article, it’s about so much more than your car’s bumper sticker or magnet!
Remember, we are role models as parents and children absorb our attitudes about success and failure. By maintaining perspective about acceptances and rejections, you teach them resilience and self-worth that transcends external validation.
The true purpose of education at any level is growth—academic, social, and personal. A strong education helps students develop the skills, character, and mindset to navigate life with confidence, curiosity, and integrity. The measure of a good school fit isn't its reputation, but how it nurtures your child's love of learning and helps them become who they want to be!
In your child's development, school placement is just one factor among many. Your consistent support and their innate qualities will shape their path far more than any admissions decision. So, to all you parents out there: Trust your child’s passions. Let them explore. The world will always have opinions, but you know your child best. They have so much to teach us—if we’re willing to listen!