“Take care of what takes care of you.” This simple yet powerful quote serves as a crucial reminder for parents, especially those whose children face academic struggles. For many students, especially those with learning difficulties, school can often be a source of frustration and diminished self-confidence. However, extracurricular activities—whether they’re in sports, the arts, or other passions—can offer a sense of achievement and belonging. These activities are not just hobbies; they are lifelines that nourish self-esteem, identity, and resilience.

When a student excels in an area outside of academics, it provides them with a much-needed outlet for success. It’s a space where they can shine, free from the pressures and difficulties they may face in the classroom. For a child who struggles with dyslexia or ADHD, for example, being part of a soccer team or a theater group can be a source of pride and a reminder that they have strengths that go beyond their academic challenges.

My best advice to parents is to keep these activities on their student’s “plate.” I would even go so far as to argue that these activities are just as important as outside tutoring support! Removing these extracurricular activities from a student’s life, because of academic difficulties or for punitive reasons, can inadvertently strip away the very things that are helping them cope. It’s like taking away the one source of light in a dark room! Instead, by continuing to support and encourage their participation in these activities, you are taking care of what takes care of them. You are preserving their confidence, sense of identity, purpose and overall well-being.

In the long run, this balanced approach can help your child develop a resilient mindset. How? They learn that while academic struggles are real, they don’t define who they are. Their talents and passions are equally important parts of their identity. By nurturing these strengths, you are helping your child build a strong foundation of self-worth that will carry them through school and well beyond!